Dr. Karyn Purvis: 6 Crucial Things Every Adoptive Parent Must Do

Dawn Davenport

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I was fortunate enough to interview the late great Dr. Karyn Purvis on the Creating a Family Radio Show/Podcast several times and each time I learned something new. She had a knack for simplifying deep concepts and making them easy to apply. These are the six crucial things every adoptive parent must do, especially if they are adopting a child past infancy.

Dr. Karyn Purvis-6 things every adoptive parent must do

Dr. Karyn Purvis’s 6 Crucial Things Every Adoptive Parent Must Do

 

  1. Give your child the gift of you. Spend focused time with your child. If possible try to spend a minimum of 6 weeks at home with your newly adopted child. Don’t rush your child into school or daycare.

    Research shows that kids who have experienced trauma are often chronically dehydrated.

    Research shows that kids who have experienced trauma are often chronically dehydrated.

  2. Provide food every 2 hours for at least the first 6 months and make sure that your child is drinking lots of fluids. Research shows that kids who have experienced trauma are often chronically dehydrated.
  3. Provide a physical or sensory activity every 2 hours.
  4. Assume your child’s emotional development is 40% behind their chronological age, and expect them to behave according to their emotional age.

    Focus on saying yes more often than saying no. Your rule of thumb should be 7 “yeses” to every one “no”.

    Focus on saying yes more often than saying no. Your rule of thumb should be 7 “yeses” to every one “no”.

  5. Focus on saying yes more often than saying no. Your rule of thumb should be 7 “yeses” to every one “no”.
  6. Read up on sensory processing issues because in Dr. Purvis’s experience many children who have been abused or neglected or come from a foreign orphanage will have sensory issues. A great place to begin is this course we did with Carol Kranowitz, author of The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorders. Also consider baby massage or the Wilbarger Brushing Protocol depending on your child and after consulting with a Physical Therapist or Occupational Therapist. There are lots of videos on YouTube about how to do this.

I can’t recommend highly enough this course we did with Dr. Purvis on Healing After Abuse & Neglect.

Image credit: Petras Gaglias; Mark Jastremski; Sean Davis

15/10/2018 | by Dawn Davenport | Categories: Adoption, Adoption Blog, Blog, Other Adoption Resources | 0 Comments



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