How Adoptees Feel About Being Adopted
In honor of National Adoption Day, BuzzFeed presents this really wonderful video of adult adoptees talking about their experience with adoption! Watching it will make your day.
I smiled all the way down to my toes as I watched this video. I feel like it has become my mission to help people realize that there is no one adoptee experience. Each adopted person has different feeling about the experience and often has mixed feelings. How could this not be the case?!? Humans are far too complex to sum up their feelings about a complex issue, such as adoption, with a simple declarative sentence using one adjective.
Here is a sample of some of the comments from other adoptees that have been left on this video.
As an adopted person I hhhhhhate it when people ask me if I’ve ever met my ‘real’ parents. Of course I met my real parents, I saw them practically every day when they were raising me and until I moved out on my own.
I only remember that I’m adopted when someone sees my brother’s pic and say” why is your brother white?” and with a smile on my face I always answer ” cause I’m adopted ” .
That’s the only difference between me and my family, cause they never did anything to make me feel different from them.
I was adopted and it was the greatest thing that’s ever happened to me.
I’m adopted, and I’ve never been made to feel like an outsider. My parents told me they didn’t adopt me, but chose me. I also know my birth mother had to make probably the hardest and most selfless decision of her life by putting me up for adoption.
I love that I was adopted!!
I’m adopted and I plan to adopt. Being chosen is something I could never forget!
I can’t figure out if this video is for or against adoption…mixed messages. I’m adopted and I wasn’t ripped away from my country, I was chosen by 2 wonderful people who loved me and who are my parents. I was abandoned at birth so will never know my biological parents nor do I care. I’m special because I was adopted.
I’m adopted and I couldn’t care less about this video.
…My family IS my real family. Don’t know what the woman in the glasses meant, but she seems to have some issues about her adoption. I don’t think this video reflects the attitudes of many adoptees. … I was never upset about my adoption. I remember being as young as kinder & 1st grade aged telling my classmates I was adopted. I actually felt lucky to be. My birth mom did the most loving thing any parent could do. Give me the best life possible. I always felt lucky.
I’m adopted but it doesn’t effect me or define me. I’ve had people insist I have emotional and psychological issues from being “abandoned” by my “real” mom. Unfortunately for their theory I have absolutely no problem with being adopted and I think my “real” mom was extremely selfless and brave for putting me up for adoption because she was 16 and couldn’t give me the life I deserved.
If you’re adopted, what are your thoughts on the experience and on this video?