Books on Parenting & Child Development for Adoptive Parents
Parenting in the Eye of the Storm: The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Navigating the Teen Years by Katie Naftzger – An empathetic and heartfelt guide to your child’s teen years by adult adoptee and family therapist Katie Naftzger. Naftzger outlines essential skills for parents navigating the unique challenges adopted teens face. Listen to the Creating a Family radio show with the author here: Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Navigating the Teen Years.
Kids, Parents and Power Struggles by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka – Every one of Kurcinka’s books are great and this is no exception. Full of practical advice on raising your child. To listen to my interview with the author, check out the Creating a Family radio show.
Beyond Time-Out by Dr. Beth Grosshans and Janet Burton – This is a wise book, and I don’t say that lightly. This is a general parenting book that lays out a discipline strategy that takes the time-out technique to the next step. This book shines in the details it provides and the very realistic parenting scenarios described. Although not fair to reduce the book to a one-sentence buzz line, Dr. Grosshans makes a persuasive argument that many families have an imbalance of power between the parents and the children. Children thrive when their parents exert their authority. Although this book is not expressly geared toward adoptive parents, I believe a parent that owns their authority and power is better able to foster attachment in their children and general well being within the family. I interviewed Dr. Grosshans on the Creating a Family radio show.
The Attachment Parenting Book: A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby by Martha Sears and William Sears
The Fussy Baby Book: Parenting Your High-Need Child from Birth to Age Five by Martha Sears and William Sears
What to Expect the First Year by Heidi Murkoff
What to Expect the Toddler Years by Arlene Eisenberg
Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Too by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. An oldie but goody.
Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. This was one of the best books I read that seemed to fit my “high maintenance” kid. I interviewed the author on the Creating a Family radio show.
The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance- From Toddlers to Teens by Kim John Payne. We loved the loving gentle wisdom of this parenting book. While not written specifically for adopted kids or children who have experienced trauma or neglect, this book is directly applicable to attachment style parenting. It is encouraging without expecting perfection–of parent or child. Guest on Creating a Family Radio show Handling Lying, Stealing, and Cheating Without Losing Your Cool
Lying up a Storm by Julia Cook- (Ages 5- 10) Talks about the temptation to lie and the problems with lying. Does so in a way that does not shame the child. Was suggested as a resource on the Creating a Family Radio Show on Handling Lying, Stealing, and Cheating Without Losing Your Cool.
Ricky Sticky Fingers by Julia Cook- (Ages 5-10) Deals with stealing without shaming. Uses empathy for how other feels as a way to teach that stealing is a bad idea. Was suggested as a resource on the Creating a Family Radio Show on Handling Lying, Stealing, and Cheating Without Losing Your Cool.
Healing Stories for Challenging Behaviour by Susan Perow- (Ages 4-10) Helps parents become storytellers to help their children understand the realities of challenging behaviors such as lying stealing and cheating. Was suggested as a resource on the Creating a Family Radio Show on Handling Lying, Stealing, and Cheating Without Losing Your Cool.
A Spoonful Of Stories: An A – Z Collection of Behavior Tales for Children (Book 1 and 2) by Susan Perow- (Ages 4-10) If becoming a story teller is a little intimidating and you’d rather use someone else’s stories to help build your child’s moral compass, then this is the book for you. Was suggested as a resource on the Creating a Family Radio Show on Handling Lying, Stealing, and Cheating Without Losing Your Cool.
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