Talking about Adoption at Different Ages
How to talk with children about adoption at different ages and stages. Host Dawn Davenport, Executive Director of Creating a Family, the national adoption & foster care education and support nonprofit talks with Mark Lacava, LCSW-R, the Executive Vice President of the Pre and Post Adoption Services Department at Spence-Chapin Services to Families and Children.
How does a child’s understanding of adoption differ by age?
Toddlers & Preschoolers
- How can you talk about adoption and the role of the birth father with young children who do not understand the concept of sex?
- How does openness or lack of openness impact a child’s understanding of adoption?
- How does transracial adoption impact a child’s understanding of adoption?
- How to talk about adoption at different ages?
- What are the important points you want to make sure your child understands at each stage?
- What are some common questions children ask at different developmental stages?
- What to say when you know very little about the birth parents?
- What to say when what you How to handle the “You’re not my real mom or dad” statement?
- How to handle hard birth parent stories? Should you tell a child that they were conceived by rape or that their birth mother is in jail or birth father suffers from addiction? At what age should you share this information?
- Kids who show little or no interest in their adoption story.
- Creating a Family has a great list of the Best of the Best Adoption books for kids broken out by type of adoption and age of the child.
- Creating a Family has a great several great resources on talking with kids about adoption at different ages and stages.
- Talking About Adoption, Part 1: 0-5 Year Olds (blog post)
- Talking About Adoption, Part 2: 6-12 Year Olds (blog post)
- Talking About Adoption, Part 3: Talking with Tweens and Teens (blog post)
Music credit: Michael Ashworth