Talking about Adoption at Different Ages

How to talk with children about adoption at different ages and stages. Host Dawn Davenport, Executive Director of Creating a Family, the national adoption & foster care education and support nonprofit talks with Mark Lacava, LCSW-R, the Executive Vice President of the Pre and Post Adoption Services Department at Spence-Chapin Services to Families and Children.

In this episode, we cover:

  • How does a child’s understanding of adoption differ by age?
    • Toddlers & Preschoolers
    • School Age
    • Tweens
    • Teens
    • Young Adults
  • How can you talk about adoption and the role of the birth father with young children who do not understand the concept of sex?
  • How does openness or lack of openness impact a child’s understanding of adoption?
  • How does transracial adoption impact a child’s understanding of adoption?
  • How to talk about adoption at different ages?
  • What are the important points you want to make sure your child understands at each stage?
  • What are some common questions children ask at different developmental stages?
  • What to say when you know very little about the birth parents?
  • What to say when what you How to handle the “You’re not my real mom or dad” statement?
  • How to handle hard birth parent stories? Should you tell a child that they were conceived by rape or that their birth mother is in jail or birth father suffers from addiction? At what age should you share this information?
  • Kids who show little or no interest in their adoption story.
  • Creating a Family has a great list of the Best of the Best Adoption books for kids broken out by type of adoption and age of the child.
  • Creating a Family has a great several great resources on talking with kids about adoption at different ages and stages.

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Music credit: Michael Ashworth