Open Adoption: Handling Difficult Birth Parent Situations

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Open adoption may be good for adopted children but it can present challenging situations and relationship dynamics that can be hard for kids to understand. Some difficult situations that adoptive parents may have to navigate are birth parents showing up high to meetings, not honoring their promises, differing levels of openness between multiple adopted children, or the birth parent parenting subsequent children. Host Dawn Davenport, Executive Director of Creating a Family, the national adoption & foster care education and support nonprofit, interviews Susan Yobp, Mediation Coordinator for Consortium for Children’s Permanency Planning Mediation program. They assist families in developing post adoption contact plans for children being adopted through the foster care system.


+ Hit the Highlights

  • How to have an open adoption in difficult birth parent situations
  • How to have an open adoption when the birthparent is addicted to drugs or alcohol?
  • How to handle things when birth parent shows up for a meeting with a child high or stoned?
  • How to handle things when birth parents who are addicted fail to show up for meetings with adoptive family and child?
  • How to set healthy boundaries with birth parents who are addicted? How to set these boundaries when you have an open adoption with a birth parent dealing with addiction?
  • How to avoid becoming an enabler? Nar-Anon, Al-Anon, etc. are good places to get educated.
  • Suggestions for ways to maintain the spirit of openness even if you feel the need to reduce contact?
  • Don’t make changes written in stone. People heal.
  • Explaining drug addiction of birth parents to children. 
  • How to handle situations where the birth parent shows up late to scheduled meetings or doesn’t come at all?
  • How to handle situations where the birth parent makes promises to the child that they do not honor?
  • How should parents deal with the obvious difference between openness in multiple adoptions?
  • What should parents do when the birth family is reluctant to maintain contact?
  • What should parents do if the birth parents have another child who they do not place for adoption or is not removed by the state?
  • Should you remain in contact, and if so how, if the birth parents have abused the child?
  • Why should parents try to maintain relationships with the birth family in difficult situations?


Music credit: Michael Ashworth

09/08/2019 | by Radio Show | Categories: 2019 Shows, Adoption, Adoption Radio Shows, Radio Show | 3 Comments



3 Responses to Open Adoption: Handling Difficult Birth Parent Situations

  1. Avatar Tracy says:

    Trying to keep and maintain contact with our biological 2 yr old daughter (edited) and our rights were wrongfully suspended over a utility pole that is not our responsibility to fix it is the property management of the mobile home park to fix pole outside our mobile home located. At (edited) and we feel cause of cov 19 pandemic (edited) we are in green in (edited) and deserve more time w our biological child that agency promised us once we went green we can arrange visitation in person so long as we wear our masks (edited) is thru the (edited) and we deserve more time and hours W our child and it’s not fair to the feelings of our 2 year old daughter (edited) she was closely bonded W us for the system to cheat my daughter out of happiness W her married parents and making my little daughter cry when she got used to us for 2.5 years and (edited) wants us her bioparents to be home w us

    (edited to remove identifying information and preserve child’s privacy)

    • Tracy Whitney Tracy Whitney says:

      We are so sorry to hear of the removal of your child. We are not a legal organization so we cannot offer legal advice. We can recommend that you seek an advocate and document your conversations with the agency in writing. You might also consider asking a family member or close friend or local pastor to help you navigate the conversations and procedures. Best of luck.

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