But I Don’t Feel Too Old to Be a Mommy! The Complete Sourcebook for Starting (and Restarting) Motherhood Beyond 35 and After 40 by Doreen Nagle – Many adoptive parents come to parenthood after years of waiting. Others are called to adoption after having already raised biological kids, and still others are raising their grandchildren long after they thought their parenting days were over. But I Don’t Feel Too Old to Be a Mommy! details the risks, rewards, rumors and resources of older parenthood from making the decision to start a family to the realities of raising kids when you’re beyond 35 and 40. This book isn’t specific to adoption, but it does touch on adoption as an older parent, and its focus is more on the big picture issues surrounding becoming an older parent rather than the medical issues surrounding pregnancy at an advanced age, so much of it is applicable for older parent adoption.

You Make Me Feel Like an Unnatural Woman: Diary of a New (Older) Mother by Judith Newman – It’s not unusual for adoptive parents to be a bit older than the average parent. Newman became a mother through infertility treatment rather than adoption, and she dedicates portions of the book to her infertility treatment and pregnancy, but she also talks candidly about how having children later in life (her husband is in his 60s) affected her marriage. Her experiences as a wealthy woman living in Manhattan won’t necessarily resonate with everyone, but her humorous, yet poignant story of becoming a mom on the far side of 40 will strike a cord with anyone who has waited to become a parent.