How to Do Connected Parenting While Quarantined
How do we apply TBRI during this time of high stress caused by the coronavirus pandemic. We talk with Amanda Purvis, a training specialist with the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development about connected parenting during the shutdown.
- Parenting is harder right now because of so many reasons, not the least of which is that we are being asked to be teacher, chief cook and bottle washer for all meals on all days, and parent all at the same time we are worried about either lost jobs or trying to balance working at home with our kids, worrying about our health and the health of our loved ones, and worrying in general about whether we, our city, and our country will ever recover. Why is connected parenting more important now than ever?
- Is it just useful for kids who’ve experienced trauma or also would it be helpful for all children and families?
- What are the founding principles of connected parenting as envisioned by Dr. Karyn Purvis in her seminal book The Connected Child and is incorporated in Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI®)
- Applying TBRI® to some specific situations that are common during the shutdown.
- Kids fighting with each other constantly, but especially at the end of the day.
- Meltdowns over school work.
- Not finishing assignments.
- Not being able to or willing to work independently.
- Resisting parent as teacher. “You’re not my teacher” “You aren’t as good as Mrs. Jones.”
- Resisting or tantruming when it is time to do school work.
- Teens staying up all night and then sleeping all day.
- Battles over screen time.
- Parental stress interferes with the ability to practice connected parenting. Ideas on how to reduce stress.
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