The Hoover Family
Adoption. It is a loaded word that conjures up all kinds of images, thoughts and emotions. Tack on the words FOSTER CARE and the images, thoughts and emotions take on an even darker tone. Your mind flashes to after school specials and lifetime network movies. I am not going to lie and say that my family entered into this journey without those exact same thoughts. That is where the amazing community of Creating A Family comes in. There were so many fears and thoughts that we went through. So many “omgosh can we do this?” thoughts. Further complicating our decision was to do so with our daughter already in the home. She was born to us, and after 6 years of infertility we didn’t know whether we should pursue international or foster care adoption. We didn’t know what would be easier for her, for us, or what would make more sense for our family. See at the time we were a military family.
International adoption wasn’t conducive for us simply because of the travel. I spent great hours researching at length the cost, the types of mental health issues and diagnoses in both international and foster care adoptions, and what types of legalities and ethical issues were involved for both types of adoption. Hands down the best resource I found was the Creating A Family blog posts, Facebook page and Facebook group. There I found people asking the same questions I was, having the same fears I had. There I found families like mine. People who were able to answer my questions, honestly and openly. People who didn’t gloss over the hard parts of adoption. I won’t say that every fear I have is gone. That we are 100% sure everything will work out, but I know that foster care adoption is for us. Is adoption easy? No. Is adoption for everyone? Absolutely not. However, if you have done your
research. If you keep coming back to the same ideas and thoughts again and again, then it might just be the right fit for you. It might just be the right path. Whether you come from a place of wanting to help kids, infertility or just a heart for adoption, sometimes you just have to leap and have faith that you have done all you can to prepare. I guarantee that your family will fit in here.