Books for Children Conceived through Fertility Treatments
Miracle Baby: How Babies Are Made The IVF Way by Jennifer Bennett (ages 3-7) – This book explains IVF to younger children, and is meant for the parent and child to read together.
What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg (ages 3-7) – This book it provides a way for young children to understand how reproduction works, using scientific terminology (sperm, egg, uterus). The pictures are not gender specific, and the book teaches children that while you need a sperm and an egg to make a baby, not every has a baby in the same way, so it should be able to be used by every family. The author is planning on writing a book covering the same material for older readers.
Our Story (Egg donation for heterosexual couples) (ages 3-6) – A book put out by The Donor Conception Network to help explain how mommy’s eggs were not working well so they had to get help from a kind woman (a donor).
I Can’t Wait to Meet You by Claudia Santorelli-Bates (ages 4-8) – Story of couple who used IVF to conceive child. Uses some technical language, so it is probably better for somewhat older children.
How Babies and Families Are Made: There Is More Than One Way! by Patricia Schaffe (ages 5-9) – This is a basic sex ed book for families formed in alternative ways. It includes a discussion of miscarriage, cesarean delivery, twins, artificial insemination, in vitro fertilization, adoption and stepchildren. Surrogacy and donor egg are not discussed, but the book in inclusive enough to open the door for this discussion. The book may be too technical for the younger end of the range, but it is still a worthy addition to your sex ed library/all families are different and the same collection.
Before You Were Born series of books for children, by Janice Grimes, RN. Books for children conceived through IVF, egg donation, embryo donation, donor sperm, and surrogacy.
My Beginnings by Tim Appleton is a story of a mommy and daddy who want a baby. After wanting and waiting they finally have a baby through IVF. This book can be customized with all the details specific to your story, but the price is hefty (about $150). You can get a CD to go with this book, but I personally favor the curl up with book and child on lap. However, the CD also includes the story I’m a Little Frostie, which details IVF using a frozen embryo. This book has to be shipped from the UK, so I’d start with some of the other books I’ve listed first to save money on shipping.
It Takes Love (and some other stuff) to Make a Baby by L.L. Bird – The book introduces children to several concepts and vocabulary words such as “ovaries,” “uterus,” “pregnant,” “sperm,” “egg,” “testicles,” “sperm donor,” and “sperm bank” and explains what each term means when it comes up in the context of the description of how babies are made in two-mom families.
I Love You This Much by Katina Cahill – A mommy and a daddy desperately want a child to love. Until one day when the mommy becomes ill. A rush to the doctor reveals that the mommy is pregnant and will soon have a baby to love “more than anything in the world.” Joy and anticipation replace sadness and despair and the arrival of their blessed son is the best thing in the world.Image credit: RiyAdh – M!s$