Coping with Infertility Grief
One of the reasons that the pain of infertility is so hard to deal with is that it is often unrecognized by our society. Therapist and scholars have a name for this type of grief: disenfranchised grief or ambiguous grief.
The lack of recognition for the loss makes it easy to feel that you aren’t entitled to mourn, but mourning is crucial to healing. It is hard to grieve a dream and harder still when others don’t even see that there is a loss.
You do not have to cope with the pain and grief of infertility alone. Many people have been helped by counselors, but it is especially helpful if the therapist is trained in the realities of infertility.
- Creating a Family has done a number of shows that include a discussion of how to find a good therapist that is knowledgeable about infertility issues. Listen to a few, such as How to Survive Infertility without Losing your Mind, Your Marriage, or Your Friends, Coping with Infertility, and Psychological Issues with Infertility.
- Ask your infertility clinic if they have mental health professionals on staff or can recommend one.
- The American Society of Reproductive Medicine lists members that are mental health professionals.
Creating a Family has many resources to help you cope with infertility grief. A few we think you will find particularly helpful are:
- Infertility Grief: Saying Goodbye to the Child You Never Had (blog)
- Why Them/Not Me-Railing Against Unfairness of Infertility (blog)
- Can You Be Happy Even While Infertile? (1 hr. radio interview with experts)
- Tips for Staying Happily Married Through Fertility Treatment (tip sheet)
- Coping with the Emotions of Infertility and Pregnancy Loss (1 hr. radio interview with experts)
- Ten Answers to “When are you Going to Have Kids”
Many more Creating a Family radio interviews with experts, videos, blogs, fact sheets, and Q and A’s with Experts on coping with infertility grief can be found at the icons below.Image credit: Wolf Soul