Top Ten Myths about Infertility

  1. Just relax.  OK friends, if relaxing were enough to do it, we’d all get pregnant the first month we ditched birth control, bought that really good bottle of wine, and lit the candles.
  2. It’s your fault because _________ (Take your pick: lived the fun life and postponed starting a family, had sex too young, work too much, enjoy sex too much (or is it too little?), are overweight, are underweight, were ambivalent about becoming a mother, your husband plays Dungeons and Dragons (honest to goodness was told to one of our community members), etc.)  Fault has no place when talking about a disease.
  3. Infertility is only a problem for older women who made the decision to wait to late to start a family.
  4. It’s usually caused by a problem with the woman.  I can’t tell you the number of people I talk with that go through invasive and expensive testing of the woman, only to find out from a simple and cheap sperm analysis that the problem is with the man.
  5. Your Ob/Gyn can handle most fertility problems.  Although your initial consultation and treatment can start with your gynecologist, after 6 months (over 35) or a year (under 35) get yourself to a reproductive endocrinologist.
  6. Infertility treatment is always successful.
  7. Just keep trying, look at ______(fill in the blank with the name of any 40 something actress), she just had twins.
  8. All this “trying” must be fun! *wink*
  9. Adopt, then you’ll get pregnant.
  10. All these new fangled treatments like donor egg and surrogacy are against nature.  If God wanted you to be a parent, you would get pregnant.