Mark Zuckerberg’s Miscarriage Post Explodes the Conversation

Dawn Davenport

8

Mark Zuckerberg announces recurrent miscarriages

Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan jump start the conversation about struggling to get pregnant and recurrent miscarriages.

Mark Zuckerberg, and his wife Priscilla Chen, announced on Facebook that they are expecting a baby girl. Nothing shocking here—people announce their pregnancies on Facebook all the time! But Mark and Priscilla also announced that they had suffered three miscarriages in their struggle to start a family. Now that is unusual, and oh so welcomed.

As Zuckerberg said in his Facebook post:

It’s a lonely experience. Most people don’t discuss miscarriages because you worry your problems will distance you or reflect upon you — as if you’re defective or did something to cause this. So you struggle on your own.

YES!

Apparently I’m not the only one who thought “YES!”.

Mark Zuckerberg announces they had 3 miscarriages

Some of the 48,000 shares no doubt were just because of the pregnancy, but if you read through the 106,000 comments, you’ll see that most are focusing on the infertility and recurrent pregnancy loss, and are thanking Mark for opening up the discussion!

Miscarriage and infertility will always be painful and sad, but it need not be lonely. 1 in 100 women will suffer recurrent pregnancy loss. 10 in 100 will have other forms of infertility.

You are not alone. We are not alone.

Let’s follow Mark and Priscilla’s example and start talking about our fertility struggles. You will find, as they did, that many of your friends and family have gone through something similar.

But go one step further: Join support groups, such as the Creating a Family Facebook Support Group. In infertility/miscarriage support groups you will find hundreds (actually thousands) of people who have walked in your shoes. You will feel surrounded by support.

Thank you Mark Zuckerberg for jump starting this discussion. And thank you for creating Facebook which allows us to join together with others to feel less lonely.

Did you/do you talk about your miscarriages and infertility?

Mark Zuckerberg’s Facebook Pregnancy Announcement

Priscilla and I have some exciting news: we’re expecting a baby girl!

This will be a new chapter in our lives. We’ve already been so fortunate for the opportunity to touch people’s lives around the world — Cilla as a doctor and educator, and me through this community and philanthropy. Now we’ll focus on making the world a better place for our child and the next generation.

We want to share one experience to start. We’ve been trying to have a child for a couple of years and have had three miscarriages along the way.

You feel so hopeful when you learn you’re going to have a child. You start imagining who they’ll become and dreaming of hopes for their future. You start making plans, and then they’re gone. It’s a lonely experience. Most people don’t discuss miscarriages because you worry your problems will distance you or reflect upon you — as if you’re defective or did something to cause this. So you struggle on your own.

In today’s open and connected world, discussing these issues doesn’t distance us; it brings us together. It creates understanding and tolerance, and it gives us hope.

When we started talking to our friends, we realized how frequently this happened — that many people we knew had similar issues and that nearly all had healthy children after all.

We hope that sharing our experience will give more people the same hope we felt and will help more people feel comfortable sharing their stories as well.

Our good news is that our pregnancy is now far enough along that the risk of loss is very low and we are very hopeful.

Cilla and our child are both healthy, I’m extremely excited to meet her and our dog Beast has no idea what’s coming. In our ultrasound, she even gave me a thumbs up “like” with her hand, so I’m already convinced she takes after me.

We’re looking forward to welcoming her into the world and sharing more soon when she’s ready to come out and meet everyone!

03/08/2015 | by Dawn Davenport | Categories: Blog, Infertility, Infertility Blog | 8 Comments



8 Responses to Mark Zuckerberg’s Miscarriage Post Explodes the Conversation

  1. Darci Klein says:

    Miscarriage is tramatic and isolating. And often, it is preventable. Doctors do not routinely test for why a miscarriage happened until 3 or more losses. Patients need to ask for testing after loss.

  2. Stacy D says:

    I talk about both to others going through infertility. But when I do talk about my two miscarriages and one loss at 25 weeks people shut me down and don’t want to talk about it. I hate this. I have felt so alone at times.

  3. Kerstin Press says:

    I do (about infertility) and support is usually good with the occasional uneducated stupid comment (…. “Just relax…”).
    I’m deeply sorry that those with what I would consider greater need (mc) have such a hard time getting support. This has to end – as scary as the thought of MC may be to those that have not had to walk that road.

  4. Alicia says:

    My husband and I have had five miscarriages. We saw the heartbeat four of the five times. Yes, I talked about. Yes, I got judged…A LOT!!! Do I care that I was judged? Not anymore, but at first yes. I know though, that I helped others open up and feel like they had someone to talk to about miscarriages. I helped others who never had anyone to talk to about miscarriages before. I’m GLAD I have been open and honest about my miscarriages and what it does to a person/relationship.

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Alicia, it breaks my heart that you faced judgement rather than sympathy!

      • Hai Li says:

        Mark Zuckerberg and his wife are themselves to blame. They are super wealthy, super young and by all appearance super healthy. There is no reason to have 3 consecutive miscarriages. The reason is because they were too much into money and fame. If after her 1st miscarriage, they took vacation in Hawaii for 2 years and far from silicon valley’s stress and work, 100% they would have 2 beautiful, healthy children instead of 2 miscarriages. Mark Zuckerberg focus more number of facebook users than his children’s well-beings. There should be no sympathy for them at all.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Back to Top ↑

Content created by Creating a Family. And remember, there are no guarantees in adoption or infertility treatment. The information provided or referenced on this website should be used only as part of an overall plan to help educate you about the joys and challenges of adopting a child or dealing with infertility. Although the following seems obvious, our attorney insists that we tell you specifically that the information provided on this site may not be appropriate or applicable to you, and despite our best efforts, it may contain errors or important omissions. You should rely only upon the professionals you employ to assist you directly with your individual circumstances. CREATING A FAMILY DOES NOT WARRANT THE INFORMATION OR MATERIALS contained or referenced on this website. CREATING A FAMILY EXPRESSLY DISCLAIMS LIABILITY FOR ERRORS or omissions in this information and materials and PROVIDES NO WARRANTY OF ANY KIND, implied, express or statutory. IN NO EVENT WILL CREATING A FAMILY BE LIABLE FOR ANY DAMAGES, including without limitation direct or indirect, special, incidental, or consequential damages, losses or expenses arising out of or in connection with the use of the information or materials, EVEN IF CREATING A FAMILY OR ITS AGENTS ARE NEGLIGENT AND/OR ARE ADVISED OF THE POSSIBILITY OF SUCH DAMAGES.