We post a discussion question every day on the Creating a Family Facebook page and a few weeks ago the question was: Do you still “crave” the experience of having a bio child after you adopted?
We had a great discussion with some saying yes they still really wish to have this experience and others who couldn’t care less. And then someone posted the following:
I think the thing I crave even more than biology or pregnancy is control. Control over when and how many kids to have. Adoption can be so unpredictable and can take so long and cost so much it really adds a lot of pressure when deciding if there’s one more. And how nice would it be to have nine whole months to prepare, to have a due date you can, well sort of, depend on?
Of the many losses of infertility, perhaps the hardest to cope with is the loss of control.
- Loss of control of when to have children.
- Loss of control for how many children to have.
- Loss of control of how to have children.
- And maybe even the loss of control of if you will have children.
Even those who are not control-freaks feel the pain of having so little control over something so fundamental in life.
How hard has the loss of control from infertility been for you?
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