Four Foods to Avoid When Trying to Get Pregnant

Dawn Davenport


Four Foods to Avoid When Trying to Get Pregnant

There is so much misinformation about what to eat and what to avoid when trying to get pregnant, with or without the help of infertility treatment. We wanted to know what nutritional information is supported by strong science. According to Dr. Sheeva Talebian, with Reproductive Medicine Associates of New York, these are the top four foods to avoid.

  1. Artificial Sweeteners and Sugar Substitutes- These fake sugars can be found in a variety of food and beverages marketed as “sugar-free” or “diet. They go by names such as:
    • Acesulfame potassium (Sunett, Sweet One)
    • Aspartame (Equal, NutraSweet)
    • Saccharin (SugarTwin, Sweet’N Low)
    • Sucralose (Splenda)
    • Neotame
    • Advantame
  2. Caffeine– Go easy on the caffeine—no more than one caffeinated beverage a day, but remember that many sodas contain caffeine.
  3. Fish high in mercury– Fish contain vital nutrients important to women trying to conceive, including omega-3s, protein, vitamins, and minerals such as iron; however, some fish are high in mercury and should be avoided. The fish to avoid include:
    • tilefish (from the Gulf of Mexico)
    • swordfish
    • shark
    • king mackerel
  4. Non-organic meat and dairy products. Doctors recommend that you get plenty of protein when trying to conceive. Dr. Talebian cited some studies that found benefits for women drinking one cup of whole milk each day. While some doctors do not care whether you eat organic or non-organic meat and dairy products, there seems to be a growing concern about antibiotics and growth hormones in non-organic meat and dairy products. When possible try to eat organic meats and milk.

You can hear more from Dr. Talebian in our interview: Lifestyle Choices That Increase Your Chances of Getting Pregnant

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06/04/2015 | by Dawn Davenport | Categories: Blog, Infertility, Infertility Blog, Infertility Resources | 137 Comments

137 Responses to Four Foods to Avoid When Trying to Get Pregnant

  1. Avatar Paige says:

    Hi I’m paige and I had my misscariage in may at 6 weeks and 3 days at my first ultrasound they couldn’t find my baby’s heartbeat . The next morning I had to go into an emergency d&c but my follow up appointment the dr told me everything looked great I was recovering awesome. It took me and my fiancé a little over a year to get pregnant and we have been trying for another baby ever since June and had no luck any advice ?

    • Tracy Whitney Tracy Whitney says:

      Hi Paige, I’m so sorry for your loss. We have lots of resources for women trying to conceive after miscarriage. They can be found here: It’s also a good idea to meet with your health care provider to do a full health history and exam to rule out any health issues that might be preventing a pregnancy. Best to you!

  2. Avatar me says:

    i am 20 and me and my husband are trying to have a baby. i had a miscarriage last year with twins. ive been trying since to try again. is there any advise you could give me.

  3. Avatar Ariel says:

    Hey menu n my dude been togethera 11 mons n we been trynna have ah babby i need help on watt to do his bday comin up n i wanna surprise him n im 20 btw

    • Tracy Whitney Tracy Whitney says:

      Ariel, without knowing your specific circumstances and health history, we cannot really advise you as to how to get pregnant. It might be useful to meet with your doctor and start there with your questions and concerns. You might also consider joining our Facebook discussion group for some real life experiences of our members and support for your journey. You can find the group here: Good luck!

  4. Avatar Catherine says:

    I have been trying to get pregnant for a long time now, does me drinking coffee affect that…What should I do to get pregnant fast? My boyfriend and I really want a kid together and we have been trying for months now and nothing is working…So any suggestion?

  5. Avatar Desunta says:

    Hello my name is desunta I was haven problems at one point of time they were telling me I have a cyst on my ovaries so I chilled because my doc didn’t say what kind just go follow up with the doctor .in see when I went to the emergency room they also assumed it wasn’t that bad cause they disappear also on they own so I didn’t think nothing about it after that set up an appointment four may I have been doing it for 8 months and now I’m about to be with my girl a year now In its noting at the moment. We did do the turkey baster yesterday so we hope and pray that it is processing at this momet I hope it worked right I had a clear cup in the. Turkey basting in laid on back in put my legs in the air why I push it in I tried to get it all some was left in it hope I got enough hope I did it right cause after I did it I got up in Walked to the car set my leg’s up what u think about it

  6. Avatar Yasheka Bester says:

    How can I get pregnant after my tube tied without surgery

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Yasheka, I’m not sure you can. And even with surgery to reverse the tubal ligation, it may not be possible to get pregnant without IVF. This is something you need to talk about with a reproductive endocrinologist.

  7. Avatar saadia says:

    Hi I m saadia I m 31 year old I want to tryong to conceive for last 8 month but not conceived I hv no kid n I get married 8 months before. Is this correct that after 30 to conceiving is difficult I m too much worried of this statement….

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Generally doctors tell us that it can take about 12 months to get pregnant at your age. After 12 months, if you are still not pregnant, you need to go to your gynecologist. You do need to make sure that you are having sex during the most fertile times of the month. We have lots of info on how to know the best time to make love at Tips & Tricks for Getting Pregnant.

  8. Avatar Kendra Lewis says:

    Hey I been off birth control (depo) for 3 months now me n my fiance been trying to have a baby and nothing happening

  9. Avatar Tawonna williams says:

    Hey I Got My Inplanon Implant Removed Almost A Month Ago & Me And My Husband Have Been Trying For Baby Number 2 Since Then. The Past Week I’ve Been Having Cramps , One Night It Was Hurt So Bad I Couldn’t Sleep, I’ve Also Gained 7 Pounds And I Pee ALOT And Everyday At 11:30 Am I Wake Up Nauseous And With A Headache I’m Am Now Three Days Late On My Period And Took a Pregnancy Test Yesterday And It Was Negative Is It Too Early To Take A Test?

  10. Avatar Bella says:

    I was on birth control for 2 years. When I got off. My periods were supper irregular. I discovered 6 years later I had an ovarian cyst that had been there since highchool and they had to Remove it and my right ovary surgically. Now my husband and I are trying to have a baby. We’re not having any luck. My periods are still not regular but they are not nowhere near as bad as they used to be. We want to start a family… but don’t know what to do. Please help me.

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Bella, you need to see a specialist to find out why your periods are so irregular. You need to see a reproductive endocrinologist. They often practice at infertility clinics. Make sure they code the reason for the testing they will do as to find the cause for your irregularity, not for treatment of infertility. Your health insurance is more likely to cover the testing if it is unrelated to fertility treatment. Your insurance may or may not cover the fertility treatment if that becomes necessary. It is possible that they can treat the underlying cause, and you may not need fertility treatment.

  11. Avatar Julie says:

    Hi I been on birth control for about 2 and a half years my husband and I want to have a baby.. but I’m so scare from stories I have heard that from being on birth control is harder to get pragnant:… I’m also scare of giving birth and the whole process do u know if theirs any kind of counseling ….. I want to be able to give my husband a baby but fear don’t let me…

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Actually, on a recent Creating a Family show, a reproductive endocrinologist said that birth control pills do not make it more difficult to get pregnant after you get off. It may take a couple of months, however, for your system to get back to normal. Any yes, there is counseling and I strongly suggest that you see a counselor to help you work through your fears.

  12. Avatar Ariel McCarty says:

    Hello, my name is Ariel McCarty me & my husband been trying to have a baby for 4 years now, I have irregular periods & bad migraine all the times so as my husband. But every time I go in the hospital they told me that I have to exercise, and I’ve been eating healthy & stay active after I had my baby in 2012. She passed away because the belly cord was wrap around her neck that she cannot breathe, and now we are trying to have another baby. Any advise?

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Ariel, I suggest you go to a doctor who specializes in infertility–a reproductive endocrinologist. You need a thorough work up to determine why your periods are irregular and why you have not conceived. If your insurance will not cover this diagnostic workup, go to a gynecologist.

      • Avatar Dups says:

        I have been trying for 10years. My menses have been regular until this year that its getting delayed. My last menses in March was delayed by 10days. I did an amh which shows low fertility. Is there anything I can take to improve egg quality. I will appreciate your great insight. Thks

  13. Avatar Tammy says:

    Hello my name is Tammy I’m 26. Five years ago I had a boy. I have never been on any birth control or pills. My husband and I are trying to have another child we tried this pass month and this onemail as well and no luck yet… Is there something different I have to do so when October comes we can try again

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Have you been timing your intercourse to coincide with the fertile time of the month? You can get lots of info online about how to determine when you are ovulating. Since you’ve been not using birth control for 5 years and haven’t become pregnant, I think it’s time to go to your gynecologist for help. If that doesn’t work pretty quickly, I’d go straight to a specialist–a reproductive endocrinologist.

  14. Avatar Deanna says:

    Hi I’m Deanna and I’m 22 I have a boyfriend and we have no kids and we want to start a family what should we do…….

  15. Avatar Deanna says:

    Hi I’m Deanna I want to get pregant but the last time that I went to the doctor she told me that I can’t get pregant and she also told me that I have to be off birth control and I also that I can’t take Hormones shots anymore and I don’t have my period so please help me……..

  16. Avatar Anna says:

    Hi Im 23 i have very irregular periods i am scheduled Wednesday for a pap test and to get on birth control pills but i wanna get pregnant will this help my chances increase

  17. Avatar Emily says:

    Hello! I’ve been trying to get pregnant for a very long time now and I’ve had absolutely no luck. I did have a false positive and when I went to the doctor and he told me I wasn’t pregnant and had not been pregnant it 100% crushed me. I need help. I have longed for a child and I keep having dreams that I’m pregnant or that I have a child and when I wake up and see that it was only a dream it makes me even more depresses than what I already am. I need your advice please. Thank you.

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Oh Emily, I’m so sorry you are going through this. Yes, infertility can be very depressing. You need to see a doctor that specializes in infertility to understand why you are not getting pregnant. Reproductive endocrinologists are the specialist and they usually practice at infertility clinics. She/he can devise a treatment plan to help you get pregnant. You didn’t tell us your age, but time is not on your side when trying to get pregnant, so I would suggest seeing a specialist sooner rather than later. We have a great guide to help you choose the best clinic and understand what will happen at the first couple of visits: Choosing a Fertility Clinic or Doctor: A Multimedia Guide For Those Considering Infertility Treatment (

  18. Avatar Tiffany says:

    I’m 24 I had an ectopic pregnancy when I was 22 . My husband and I have been trying ever since and no luck.. I need help.

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Tiffany, get yourself immediately to a reproductive endocrinologist. Ectopic pregnancies can very easily scar the fallopian tubes or in other ways damage them. Of course, you have two ovaries and two tubes, and presumably only one tube would potentially have been damaged. In any event, this is something that a specialist can easily determine. Talk with them first about ways to get at least some of the diagnosis or treatment covered by your health insurance. Good luck.

  19. Avatar Denise says:

    Hello I have a nine year old and I was on the Morena but got off a year later. Me and my husband have been trying for two years and nothing.My doctor thought I had pros my obgyn discover that I don’t have it. She put me on bc to regulate my cycle been on it for 8 months. I need help and encouragement.

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Denise, if you’ve been trying to get pregnant for 2 years with no success, it is time (high time actually) to see a specialist. You need to make an appointment with a reproductive endocrinologist, which usually practice in an infertility clinic. Get our Choosing a Fertility Clinic or Doctor: A Multimedia Guide For Those Considering Infertility Treatment ( to help you find one near you.

  20. Avatar Jennifer says:

    I’m 36 and irregular been this way since I was 15. I’ve tried birth control to help regulate my cycle but no help. So, I asked my gynecologist if I could possibly have children and he answered it would be hard but possible being that I don’t ovulate like I supposed to. I really want at least one child before I get to old. How can I help the situation progress?

  21. Avatar Jenn says:

    Im 43 years old, no longer having a mense. Husband and I both want a child, im diabetic an i am over weight is there any help out there us to become pregnant im dosing to have anouther baby an husband don’t have any children where I have a son from previous. I was pregnant in 2008 but lost that baby haven’t been able to conceive scence. Dr. Did test said im going through menopause im very very upset please tell me there is something out there can help us to become pregnant realy want another baby an husband wants baby also

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Jenn, this is a question you need to as an infertility doctor (a reproductive endocrinologist). I would schedule a consultation with an infertility clinic to talk about your options. It may be that your best option will be using donor eggs with your husband’s sperm, but this is a question for an infertility doctor to answer. I wish you the best of luck.

  22. Avatar Sam says:

    Me and my husband have been trying for 7 years to conceive. Been to the Obgyn to make sure nothing is wrong with me to have a baby. We even had him tested my doctor is going to be testing him again just to make sure she hasn’t missed anything. If they can’t fine anything she wants us to go to a fertility clinic to get help I’m 28 and his is 27

  23. Avatar Sha says:

    Hello, I’m 26 married have one some age 6. I had the mirania for 5 years got it taken out in December of 2014. My husband and I have been trying for a baby. And no luck. Any suggestions

  24. Avatar Vikki says:

    Hello, my husband and I have been trying for 7 years. We have tried IVF and everything. Next year I will be 40 and we still don’t have any kids. We were both tested, I check my ovulation days and everything. The doctor said neither one of us look like anything wrong. Do you have any suggestions? I’ve dieted, I exercise regularly, my husband is very active etc. Any recommendations?

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      If it were me, I’d get a second opinion with another infertility clinic. Given your age, you might also need to consider using donor eggs. You might also want to consider adoption.

    • Avatar Tenille says:

      Try Geritol I was told at eighteen without asking I was unable to get pregnant I took the liquid Geritol after losing V and eight years of failure at twenty five I took after each meal says after one within two months I was pregnant have had two miscarriages and four deliveries

  25. Avatar Jon says:


    My wife and I have had difficulty conceiving. In an effort to determine the problem, I had a sperm test done and it showed low motility and morphology. After researching the effects of artificial sweeteners, I believe that may be the culprit. I used to regularly consume sugar-free Red Bull, put Splenda in my coffee, etc. I am no longer consuming any artificial sweeteners. Do you know whether the damage done by artificial sweetener consumption is reversible or not? Have any comparative studies been done? Or have you heard from couples that removed artificial sweeteners from their diet and subsequently got pregnant?

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Jon, I haven’t seen studies specific to this, but I had assumed that IF your low sperm motility and morphology was exclusively caused by artificial sweeteners, it should improve. However, the #1 issue with infertility is age and time is not on your side. Don’t spend too much time before you get to a specialist.

    • Avatar Jordan says:

      Hello my name is Jordan I was just wondering what I could do for my body to get ready for a pregnancy , because me and my boyfriend are wanting to start a family .

      • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

        There are lots of resources on our site for preparing for pregnancy, but they generally boil down to eating healthy, get plenty of sleep, and exercise. Also, if either of you are overweight, reduce your BMI to a healthy level.

  26. Avatar Marisa says:

    hi am 45 yrs old and I want to get pregnant but my Gyn told me I no longer have any eggs is there still a chance for me?

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      I suggest listening to your doctor who has seen you in person and knows your medical history.

    • Avatar Christine says:

      Marisa as long as you still having your periods and have not reached menopause than I say you still have a chance!!!

  27. Avatar ebony says:

    Hello. Me and my boyfriend of three year have been trying to have a baby. But last year around this time we was pregnant but then we had a miscarrige. But we been trying every day. How long should we wait until we try again?? How long it take after a miscarriage???

  28. Avatar samantha says:

    I am going to be 19 in a few months and I recently stop going for my depo shot and me and my boyfriend want a baby how long would I have to wait to get pregnant?

  29. Avatar Jane Webb says:

    Im almost 22years old. My husband is also almost 22. We are about 6 weeks apart. We have been trying to get pregnant for almost 6months now. I got pregnant by accident year before last. I found out on Dec. 19th. 3 days later on the 21st I miscarried. I never tested positive on any urine tests. Even at the hospital. They tested my blood an thats how I found out. Thats the only time I was pregnant. I only bleed ever 3-8months. Im irregular to say the least. My aunts on my fathers side both had the menstrual issues that regulated themselves between age 20-25. I really want a kid but I dont think I can. Has anyone else expierence this or anything similar? Oh an im not sure if its relevant but my husband’s cum is VERY thick. Like half dried glue? I think that has something to do with it but im not sure. I know its my fault I havent conceived I jus dont know why

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Jane, I’m not a doctor, but the general rule of thumb is that before you see a specialist you should try on your own for 12 months. This “trying” should be timed to when you ovulate. The problem for you will be to determine when and if you ovulate. You have to decide whether you want to try to figure out your ovulation on your own for the next 6 months or go to your gynecologist for help. When you go to the doctor, either now or in 6 months, it would make sense to have a semen analysis done on your husband. Good luck.

      • Avatar Jane Webb says:

        I know its only been 6 months.. but we do it every day. Theres no way im not pregnant unless its a vaginal/seminal issue.. we even try when I do bleed. Im jus worried that I wont be able to have them. I have large cysts on my ovaries and an acidic uterine environment. When I did get pregnant I thought it was a tubular pregnancy. I cant really afford a gyno. An im almost positive that there are no financial assisted gynos in my area. Im not sure what I should do.

        • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

          Given that you have cysts on your ovaries and it sounds like you’ve been trying for 3+ years, I would definitely go to a gynecologist now. Is basic gynecological care covered as preventative care under Obama Care? Check with your insurance, but I would approach it as basic care, not as a visit to check for infertility.

        • Avatar Maria Walker says:

          Dear Jane,

          You may want to get rid of these ovarian cysts first. I encourage you to buy Soursop (Graviola) leafs and drink its tea. You can do your own research but because I am an herbalist I can tell you that Soursop has anti-tumorous properties that helped many cancer patients and women like you to get rid of cysts and tumors. I also drink this tea for a brain tumor and the tumor is shrinking. You need to make this tea in a special way once a day but it is easy to do and divide it in three portions so you going to drink it in the morning, at lunch time and before bed. Please search the internet for this information and you’ll find many testimonies from women who successfully helped themselves with this herbal plant. I wish the best for you.

      • Avatar Jane Webb says:

        Also we never used protection unless its for fun. We’ve been together for almost 3.5 years. You’d think I’d have been prego more than just once. Im jus worried that I cant give the love of my life the child we both want so bad…

  30. Avatar momof3 says:

    I have 3 children (9mo, 2.5yrs,& 5.5yrs) and now I am trying to conceive with an at home insemination kit to carry a baby for my sister. I’m 25 and have been trying since December (3mo) while using an app to track my bbt, cervical fluid, mensuration, etc but I have yet to be successful. Are there any tricks I should be using to increase my chances?

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      I would check with your gynecologist. You might also need for the father to have a sperm analysis. I would also very strongly urge you to consult with an attorney that specializes in reproductive law to make certain that you and your sister have all the appropriate legal documents to cover this surrogacy arrangement. You also need them to review and make sure your insurance will cover this pregnancy. Creating a Family has resources to help you find a reproductive law attorney.

  31. Avatar me says:

    Okay I am not pregnant or have been but my breasts leak fluid sometimes. What are your thoughts?

  32. Avatar Jessie says:

    Hi I am about to be 22 and my husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and we have been trying to have a baby and I have always had irregular periods since I first began having them in 8th grade and we have always tried to time it right but it is hard to do when one month I start my cycle at the begening of the month then the next month in the middle or at the 32nd of the month. It had always been like that and we have been trying for two years and I am already taking parental vitamans. But the thing is my husband has sickle cell and I have just have low iron amines, low thyroid issues.

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Jessie, you need to see a specialist. I would recommend going to an infertility clinic for a workup and diagnosis.

  33. Avatar Lilian-- says:

    Im 20 yrs old and married i have been trying to get prego for 3 yrs now i had a surgery for and ovarian cyst when i was 16 doctor told my mom it was going to be hard for me to have a baby i want to know if there is women out there that had the same problem and have a baby already i tried loosing weight i tried eating healthy taking vitamins (PLEASE ADVISED) thanks ??

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      I think you need to see a specialist who can help decide why you are not getting pregnant. It is possible that it is PCOS, but it could be other reasons as well.

  34. Avatar Isabel says:

    Okay so about 4 weeks ago i was havin left and right pelvic pain on and off for 2 weeks and a couple of days and 2weeks ago i was getting tender breast and tgey were very full and feel heavy for like a whole week i was even feeling alot o headaches alot of pregnancy symptoms but last night i got mi period right after having intercourse. me and my partner been traying for like 4 months what should i do?

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      The general advice is to not worry until yo have been trying for 12 months if you are under 35 or 6 months if you are older than 35. You need to learn your cycle and be able to tell when you are ovulating so that you can time intercourse to coincide with your most fertile time in your cycle.

      • Avatar kinshara says:

        I’m getting ready to be forty in about 2weeks. Me and my husband has been trying for over 6yrs to conceive,but everytime we think its pregnancy I’m told by doctors that I have uterus fibroids! Now I’m facing my second myomectomy to remove the fibroids! This causes me to go into a deep depression!

        • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

          I am so sorry you are going through this! I would strongly recommend going to an infertility clinic to get a diagnosis.

    • Avatar Savanna says:

      Go to a doctor or u can or u could have had a mid carriage

  35. Avatar Brittany says:

    Hi, My husband and I have been trying for almost a year to have a baby and I just can’t seem to get pregnant. I bought an OPK and we had timed sex, but nothing. He had a child with another woman and so I know its me and not him. I am almost 19. What should I do?

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Brittany, I’m not a doctor, but the general recommendation at your age is to try with timed intercourse one full year, then get yourself to a doctor that specializes in infertility–a reproductive endocrinologist. Good luck!

    • Avatar The young girl with 3 lovely girls says:

      You are19 maybe wait. Enjoy your innocent years try at 24 way better. Go travel work hard save your money and finish college kids are so expensive.

    • Avatar Karen says:

      Hi 35 and i have 1 baby and she is one now and i have regular period and also breast feeding h trying to get pregnant again but no luck:( what should I do?

  36. Avatar Amanda says:

    Hello I am 20 years old. When I was 15 I had an abortion. my periods are all over the place and its starting to upset me a lot because I just don’t know much about the whole ovulation. Ive been much happier and less stressed so mine and my partners goal is trying to get pregnant. I tried the walmart ovulation tests I try being healthy my partner quit smoking a few weeks ago for good. I was showing so many signs of pregnancy. I even spotted a light pinkish light brown color for two days and the cramps came and gone those past two days as well. I took two home test and they both said negative so now I’m just concerned. Whats going on? How can we make this work to get pregnant? How to track such a messed up period. I just dont really know what to do.

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Amanda, this is a good question for your gynecologist. If you have a very irregular period, your doctor needs to try to figure out the underlying cause. It’s a great idea to quit smoking and start living a healthy lifestyle at any time, but especially when you are trying to get pregnant, but it sounds like you need to understand why your periods are irregular.

  37. Avatar Somebody says:

    Hi I’m 25 years old I had a abortion when I was 15 my moms choice and since I’ve had 3 serious relationship meaning I was having unprotected sex with my mates at the time never got pregnant they all have other children with other women but it me that just can’t get pregnant I want a baby so bad with my current boy friend we been trying for 3 years now and still nothing any suggestions I’ve did ovulation tests vitamins also everything you can think of I was just suggested to drink baby aspirin and folic acid once a day please help!?

  38. Avatar unknown says:

    Hi I recently got married to my wonderful husband and we have now been trying to conceive. For over a year now and I still can’t get pregnant. I eat the right nutrition I need I drink my water my vitimams and I don’t drink or smoke.but since my last miscarriage from my past I haven’t been able to concieve what can I do or what would it be ? How do I know when the best time is to try on my monthly freind

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      unknown, your first step is to google “ovulation basal body temperature and cervical mucus” and read up on how to determine the most fertile times of the month. You can also buy ovulation predictor tests at any drug store or WalMart or Target. You didn’t mention you age, but the rule of thumb is that if you are under the age of 35 and have been trying to conceive for one year without success (pregnancy) you need to see a specialist–a reproductive endocrinologist. If you are over 35, see an infertility doctor after 6 months.

  39. Avatar Sue says:

    Hi, so my bf and I had a miscarriage last year in October, we are going to start trying for a baby this month, I had my last period on 9/20 that lasted 3 days. Every month is usually the same, what would my most fertile day this month be?

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      You have several options for determining when you ovulate and your most fertile days. You can go the low tech route and chart your basal body temperature and your cervical mucus. You might also use an over-the-counter ovulation predictor kit (OPK) to check for hormonal changes in your urine before ovulation. There are several apps available that can also help. Good luck.

  40. Avatar Noelle says:

    I am almost 37 years old. I had a daughter when I was 18, she is now 18. I recently got married and my husband and I are trying to conceive. I had right ovarian cysts/endometriosis cysts removed with a tubal/reproductive and a tubal cannulation which showed everything was good and clear. We tried at the end of July and August and I got my period in both August and September so no pregnancy. We have been using an app to monitor my ovulation and I have been entering my period in it the last year so I think it’s pretty accurate. We really really tried this last week during my fertile days/ovulation. If I am not pregnant this month, which I pray I am, do you suggest a fertility specialist? A friend of mine gave me the name of on in case I just hope I don’t have to use it. I am going on 37 so time is not on my side. And who knows maybe his sperm count is low, i don’t know. Anyway should I be discouraged so soon? Seemed like when I was 18 and not trying to get pregnant it happened so quick :-/

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Noelle, I’m glad you realize that time is not on your side when it comes to having a baby. And yes, it is too bad that we are at our most fertile when we are least ready to be a parent. The “rule of thumb” is that younger women should try to conceive for a year without success before they start seeking treatment and that “older” women should try for 6 months. There is no hard and fast rule about at what age the advice shifts from 6 to 12 months, but generally we hear around age 35. I’m not a doctor, so this is a good question to ask your gynecologist, but if it were me, I’d do exactly what you are doing (timed intercourse) for 6 months and then go see the specialist.

    • Avatar Nikki pope says:

      Wow our story is so much alike,I’m 38 and going to be 39 next month” word for word our story matches “keep at it”

  41. Avatar Sannie says:

    Hi. I’ll be 39 very soon. I’m healthy with no known fertility issues. My partner and I had intercourse Sept. 18. Most ovulation calculators I found online predict me to ovulate on September 20. What do you think my chance is of conceiving this month? Due to our schedules we be together again for another few days. Should I be hopeful?

  42. Avatar Marie says:

    Ih i have a 16 years old boy im 32 years old after my son i never get pregnant .

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Marie, I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. Secondary infertility is more common than many people realize. You need to get yourself to an infertility specialist–a reproductive endocrinologist–for evaluation. The initial testing may well be covered by your insurance, but make sure you talk with their financial department first.

  43. Avatar liliana says:

    Hi I’m 26 year olds the begging of the year I lost a baby me and my husband are trying to get pregnant again but we haven’t got luck would something wrong well be happening or is it to soon

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Liliana, generally speaking at your age, you should try timed intercourse (sex during the time you are ovulating) for one year. If you are not successful, first go to your gynecologist for a short while. If you still are pregnant with the treatment your gynecologist can give, go to an infertility clinic. Good luck!

  44. Avatar Paola says:

    Hello im 22 and on 2010 went on the BC shot but got pregnant anyway and had an ectopic pregnancy in June 2010. I got pregnant again in Jan 2012 and had a full term pregnancy and my baby is now going on 3yrs. But weve been trying to get pregnant for the past 2 yrs and we dont have any luck. Any adivce? I do have only one fallopian tube (left one) bcuz of the ectopic pregnancy. What can we/i do.

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Have you been making sure that you have try timed intercourse (sex during the time you are ovulating). If so, then after 2 years of trying you should go to a fertility specialist. Given your age, you can first go to your gynecologist for a short while. If you still are pregnant with the treatment your gynecologist can give, go to an infertility clinic. Good luck!

  45. Avatar Missy Bentley says:

    I was diagnosed with Pcos 2 years ago and I got pregnant a year ago which was a tubical pregnancy is it possible for me to ever get pregnant and it not be tubical

  46. Avatar Brittney says:

    I’m 27 and been off depo for 1 years and 1 months now me and my boyfriend been trying for 7 months we both have kids and I’m having second during my ovalution period what should I do

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Brittney, the “rule of thumb” is at age 27 you should try having timed intercourse (during the time you ovulate) for one year before seeing a specialist. If you have not had success in 5 months, I would suggest you go to a fertility clinic. Going to a fertility clinic does not mean that they will automatically suggest IVF.

  47. Avatar Veronica Lam says:

    Well i have a problem that I dont get my period like other girls. Honesty I go year not getting my period. Me and husband have been trying to have a baby but I know that i don’t get my period so i cant get pregnant. I went o doctors and they havent find anything yet but I really want to have a baby. So I dont know what to do.

  48. Avatar yasmine says:

    im 25 years old i was diagnosed with PCOS me and my fiance been trying for a year to have a baby but we are having trouble . i went to my doctor she just prescribed me birth control . i need help and sugguest

  49. Avatar LaToya says:

    Hello, I went to my obgyn doc and told me to get a ovulation. Kit and I did my first cycle was Aug 7-9 and I should. Ovulate on the 18 of this month if I get pregnant. My due date will be may 12 I think some one told me after my last day of my cycle wait 3day to have sex to conceive I don’t have any kids ughh the wait is killing me what should. I do man.

  50. Avatar tiffany says:

    I’m 21 years old. I’m ready to be pregnant. Me and my boyfriend have been Having sex one times a day. We’ve been together for almost 3yrs. So now we plan to make a baby. But how it sad until now it’s not working. Isn’t anything wrong of me or him? What should I do to get pregnant faster? What should also I take to be fertile?
    “Please. Help me. Thank you.

  51. Avatar Anjel says:

    Iam 26years old. Iam having sex from 3 years but i couldnot get pregnent. What should we do for get pregnent?

  52. Avatar Michelle says:

    Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for two years we got pregnant once but I miss carried and now ever since then it’s impossible to have a kid I’ve tried everything and I don’t know what to do

  53. Avatar Jasmin says:

    I am 22 with no kids what all should I do so I can start my family me and my partner have sex 2x a day am I doing some thing wrong is there some thing I should eat and stay away from

    • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

      Jasmin, we are not medical doctors, but you want to make sure that you time sex to coincide with your most fertile times. There are apps to help track when you ovulate or you can buy ovulation predictor kits. If you are having intercourse every day during your cycle that should cover it if you ovulate. The rule of thumb is that you should try on your own with timed intercourse for one year if you are under 35, and if you are not pregnant, then consult an infertility doctor. If you are worried before then, consult with your gynecologist.

    • Avatar adelina alija says:

      I’ve been having sex with my husband and we don’t ever use a condom, i don’t see why i haven’t gotten prego yet. And we try usally before and after my period to sleep together and see if i get prego , because that’s what I’ve been told ur best chances to get pregnant are before or after my period. And my husband had already a 10 year old girl chloe with a different way before we gotten together. So i know he don’t have a problem having kids.

      • Dawn Davenport Dawn Davenport says:

        Adelina, it is important that you figure out when you ovulate and make certain you are having sex during this time. Google basal body temperature or cervical mucus to learn more about how to find your ovulation window. You can also buy ovulation predictor kits at any drug store or online.

  54. Avatar Sara morris says:

    I have my tubes tied and burnt I’m 28 years old and me and my husband would like to have a baby I was wondering if I can still have a baby and sense I’m prone to miscarriages I had 4 if them before I birthed 2 children
    Wold I be healthy enough
    Would it be tubal
    Would the baby be ok
    When my son was born he had gastroschisis And didn know if this baby would have it to

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