Top Ten Tips for Parenting Artificial Twins Through Adoption

- Anticipate the constant question that your family will generate and the inevitable “Are they twins?” Decide how you are going to answer the question. It is best to have a couple of different responses depending on the circumstances (grocery store produce aisle vs. dinner party)
- Highlight the uniqueness of each child. Your goal should be to nurture them as individuals. Just because you are driving to Taekwondo for one kid, doesn’t mean that the other should take as well.
- Carve out time from your schedule to spend with each child individually. Make it a priority for both parents to establish a special separate relationship with each child.
- Talk with your extended family, friends, and teachers about some of the downsides of the inevitable comparisons that will happen, and ask them to work against comparing the children.
- As tempting as it might be, do not dress them the same.
- Do not always refer to them as a unit: the boys, the kids, and certainly not “the twins.”
- Celebrate birthdays separately.
- Do not hold a child back in school just because you want them in different grades. If, however, one child sits on the cusp of the cut-off date and would benefit from an extra year in preschool, then it might make sense, especially if the child is smaller in stature. If they are in the same grade, put them in different classes.
- If at all possible, one parent should stay at home for at least the first year post adoption.
- Go into this adoption knowing that you will feel overwhelmed the first year. Plan for this in advance by saving money for extra household help and by lowering your expectations of what you will accomplish.
March 16, 2010
What the hell is an “artificial twin”? The word is right since it pertains to adoption though-NOTHING is real about adoption. Fake parents, fake identities fake siblings, fake grandparents, fake aunts, uncles and cousins. It’s amazing how out of reality you barren women really are-and that your delusions are supported because of money. If adoption agencies and attorneys were finally stopped for taking your money to buy a child then the whole world would finally see that all of you are schizophrenic and it would be about time!. People would see how criminal and abusive to adoptees and real moms adoption is as well, and what a ponzi scheme it really is. And just as evil as what it’s founder Georgia Tann did. Infertile women DON”T deserve any other woman’s baby or tittle either! You’re all fake, fake fake!