Any adoptive parent who has ever had a stranger ask them if their kids were “real” siblings MUST check out this great photo gallery from The Huffington Post of adoptive siblings. Make sure to read the captions; these parents know that the sibling bond is about love, not DNA.
I left this comment on HuffPo:
Beautiful photos, and I love the sentiment that love transcends all.
But the sentiment “adoption is about love, not DNA,” perpetuates an Either/Or mindset that can split an adopted child. Either nature is important or nurture is. Either these people are your “real” family or those other ones are.
Can’t we instead embrace a Both/And heartset, use Both/And language? “Adoption is about love AND DNA.”