Red Flags for Unethical Adoption Agencies
During your interview with an adoption agency, be on the lookout for red flags. If a potential agency does any of the following things, it’s a sign that they don’t have your or the child’s best interest in mind.
- They don’t require parental pre-adoption education.
- They don’t provide humanitarian aid in the countries where they work.
- They require the bulk of your payment before services are provided.
- They aren’t readily available by phone or don’t return your phone calls promptly.
- They offer to “hold” a child for you while you get your paperwork ready.
- They are hesitant to give you their financial statements.
- They discourage you from getting an independent medical review of the referral or match.
- They downplay potential problems with the child. They say things like, “Love will take care of everything.”
- They create a sense of urgency. “If you don’t decide by today or tomorrow, you’ll lose out.” (Of course, it is reasonable to ask you to decide within a week or so.)
- They promise waiting times or costs that sound too good to be true. When things sound too good to be true, they usually are.
- They don’t provide birth mother counseling or post-adoption services such as family counseling.