Combining Children by Birth and Adoption


How does it work out when you combing kids by birth and foster care/adoption in the same family? Does it matter if you adopt/foster out of birth order? Does it make a difference if the child is a baby, toddler, or over the age of six? My guest will be Arleta James, a therapist that specializes in adoption and author of Brothers and Sisters in Adoption, and Judy Stigger, an adoption therapist, Director of Professional Relations for Adoption Learning Partners, and adoptive mom.

Highlights of the show (click to expand)
  • What can parents do to prepare existing children for a new sibling whose past is unknown?
  • What are some issues that institutionalized children have?
  • Adopting out of birth order. What are the potential impacts to existing children and adopted children? What can parents do to ease the problems?
  • What is artificial twinning and should parents do it?
  • How can parents facilitate sibling attachment?
  • What should parents do if their extended family gives the biological children preferential treatment?
  • What should parents do with grown children who are resistant to parents adopting younger children?
  • What should parents do if they cannot treat children by adoption and birth equally? Is it necessary to treat children in a blended family equally?
  • How much information about an adopted child’s early life should parents share with the other children?
  • Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child: Making Sense of the Past by Betsy Keefer and Jayne E. Schooler
  • Dealing with different degrees of information about each child
  • Dealing with birth children who are uncomfortable with the attention a blended family gets

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