Adopting as a Single Parent

What issues should you consider if you want to adopt as a single person? We talk with Susan Fremer, a licensed mental health intern and a single mom of five adopted girls; and Lee Varon, a LICSW specializing in adoptive parenting, a single mom to two sons through adoption, and author of two books on single parent adoption.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Single parenting is common. Are there distinctions between becoming a single parent through divorce, conception, and adoption? 
  • How easy is it to adopt as a single woman or single man? 
  • Domestic Infant. 
  • Foster Care-kids already legally free and those needing foster parents 
  • International 
  • Are there any additional requirements for single parents to be able to adopt? Any additional questions in the home study?  
  • Legal issues. Importance of a will and naming a guardian. 
  • What are some potential issues single parents should consider before they decide to adopt? 
  • Is there another single parent or family that you could partner with to provide mutual child care support either full-time or babysitting type arrangement? 
  • Emotional support. 
  • Consider moving closer to family. 
  • Changes to your friend network after you become a parent. 
  • Finances. 
  • Will your housing have to change? 
  • Child care. 
  • May influence the age of child you decide to adopt. 
  • Finding the opposite gender role model for your child. 
  • Self-care.  
  • Dating. 
  • Are you ready to be a single parent? 
  • Are you ready to give up the fun parts of being child-free, like the freedom to do what you want when you want? The freedom to tackle a new time consuming work project, educational degree, hobby, travel, etc. 
  • Are you ready to feel the inevitable time crunch of single parenting? 
  • Are you ready financially? 
  • Annoying comments you may hear when adopting as a single parent. 
  • Consider joining a single parent by choice support group. Online or in-person (check Meetup) 

Additional Resources: 

Single Adoptive Parents: Our Stories (Book by Lee Varon and Sherry Fine) 

Adopting On Your Own: The Complete Guide to Adoption for Single Parents (Book by Lee Varon) 

Single Mothers By Choice (organization and website) 

Motherhood Reimagined  (organization and website) 

ChoiceMom.org E-guide: Finding Support (eGuide) 

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Music Credit: Michael Ashworth

Image Credit: Tatiana Syrikova