- An adoption agency, adoption attorney, or adoption facilitator guaranteeing a placement in a set period of time, the health of the child, no worries about an unknown or resistant birth father, etc.
- An adoption agency, adoption attorney, or adoption facilitator that does not return phone calls or emails promptly.
- An adoption agency, adoption attorney, or adoption facilitator that seems to be pushing you to quickly make a decision. It is true that once an expectant woman has select you or you have an international adoption referral, you need to be fair and make up your mind within a reasonable period of time, but your agency or attorney should not be pushing if you have serious reservations.
- An expectant woman that seems overly fixated on how much money she can get or continually asks for money for a crisis, such as rent, the electric bill, bus fare to visit her sick grandmother, etc. Keep in mind that most states tightly regulate how much money can be paid to a birthmother and for what purposes. Violating these restrictions puts the adoption at risk.
- A prospective birth mother that procrastinates contacting your adoption agency or adoption attorney when you ask her to soon after you “meet”.
- An expectant woman who does not immediately provide proof of pregnancy when requested. This proof should be clear that it applies to her. For example, a sonogram should be labeled with her name. Be aware that sonograms can be faked, but your adoption professional should be able to help you assess the validity.
- A prospective birth mother that procrastinate signing a medical release form that provides you or your adoption agency or adoption attorney access to her pregnancy medical information.
- A prospective birth mother that has not told her doctor about her adoption plans.
- An expectant woman considering an adoption plan that refuses counseling and other community support services.
- A birth mother who immediately selects you to parent her child at the first contact. Choosing parents for her child is a monumental decision and most women take their time.
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