Infant adoption, also known as baby adoption, domestic adoption, birth mother relinquishment adoption, and sometimes private adoption, is the most common form on adoption in the US. Our Domestic Infant Adoption Chart has a great summary of the 25 factor to consider.
It is possible to adopt a baby in the US using either an adoption agency or an adoption attorney. In most infant adoptions in the US, the expectant mother (or couple) chooses the adoptive parents for her child. The vast majority of baby adoptions in the US are open.
The number of babies adopted each year in the US is a hard number to come by since adoptions is governed by state law and there is no central place where the number of adoptions must be reported. The best estimate is approximately 18,000 babies are adopted each year in the US.
The cost of adoption varies by type of adoption, whether the adoption is through an adoption agency or adoption attorney, how many services are provided by the adoption provider, whether the adoptive parents have to travel to the state where the baby is born, whether the expectant mom has health insurance, and other factors. The average cost for domestic infant adoption is $30,000 – $35,000. See the Creating a Family page on the Cost of Adoption in the US, which breaks down the cost by type of adoption and analyzes factors which affects the cost.
There is something inherently dehumanizing about using the word “advertising” when trying to find an expectant woman who might be considering adoption. As an adoption education organization, we walk the line in trying to provide practical resources for prospective adoptive parents and undercutting the basic humanity of a woman in crisis. And make no mistake, a pregnant woman who is considering placing her child for adoption is a woman in crisis. We have tried to walk that line, even though the edge is razor thin at points. We have utilized words trying to carefully balance what people will be using when they search the internet for information with the understanding that no one owes anyone else a child. I suggest reading this blog that addresses how “advertising” for prospective birth mothers can turn them into a commodity. Creating a Family has many resources to help you find prospective birth mothers. These will get you started, but make sure to check out the many more resources at the icons at the bottom of this page.
An adoptive parent profile is a portfolio or “book” prepared by families that are looking to adopt an infant in the US. This profile is sometimes known as a “Dear Birthmother Letter”. The profile contains basic information on the parent(s), why they want to adopt, and pictures that represent their life. These profiles are shown to expectant mothers that are considering adoption and are the first step in choosing the family that she want to adopt her child.
Adoptive parents often feel a lot of pressure to make the perfect profile book in order to be chosen. While there is no such thing as perfect, Creating a Family has many resources to help you prepare your adoptive parent profile and know what to include and what to leave out. These radio shows, fact sheets, blogs, videos, and expert Q & A’s can be found by clicking the icons at the bottom of this page. Here is a sample of what you will find:
Open adoption means some degree of either contact or exchange of information between the adoptive families, adoptees, and birth families. The amount of openness is tailored to the needs and desires of the parties involved. Creating a Family has an entire section devoted to Open Adoption with extensive resources to help adoptive and birth families navigate openness.
Creating a Family has many resources on domestic infant adoption. A few we think you will find particularly helpful are:
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